Panic-stricken, I called my sister and asked,”Do you happen to have a sewing kit at work?” Nothing quite beats the embarrassment of a wardrobe malfunction, especially when it happens in the workplace. Hot, flushed cheeks. If I could, I would have crawled under my desk to hide for the rest of the day. How the heck was I going walk to metro like this, much less continue my workday? At the time, my sister and I worked for an employee-owned… Read more »

I’ve decided it’s time to step (back) up to the self-care plate and take on Hashimoto’s disease. Wiped out. Every evening, I crash upon arrival in my bed after a day in the office. Something just has to give. A few weeks ago, I had a chat with the doctor, explaining that I am perpetually wiped out and as an aside, am constantly suffering from digestion tract issues. Thyroid tests reviewed, recommendation to jack up my thyroid medication dosage and… Read more »

The Simple Trick to Showing Grace to a Difficult Coworker

Pssst. Yes, dear friend, this post on showing grace is meant for you! Is your 9-5 existence punctuated by frequent sanity checks, uh, checking your 401(k) balance to temporarily sooth your anxieties in a high stress workplace? Feeling frustrated, annoyed, and irritated? Tired of dealing with difficult people in a dysfunctional work environment? I can relate. Been there, survived that. The corporate, nonprofit, government (domestic and foreign), and academic worlds have their fair share of aggravations. When the aggravation is… Read more »

Last year, I decided to do a pre-emptive purge, or an early spring cleaning, to streamline the clutter in my life. Pouring over about a decade’s worth of random documents, pictures, and other belongings, I discovered a red journal where I had had every good intention of recording what would prove to be a memorable vacation in Australia. The journal continues just one short entry: Sydney Dec. 25th 2004 Xmas Left Japan 12/23 – had a long stopover in Taipei,… Read more »

My childhood memories of summer revolve around beaches and summer reading. Having grown up in ‘the Hamptons,’ (Southampton, to be precise), I spent most of my childhood sitting on the beach. Reveling in the luxurious sounds of waves crashing against the shore and seagulls singing, I would lie down on my towel not to sunbathe, but to settle in and read a good book. Back then we didn’t have Amazon.com. No, my mom would take us to Rodger’s Memorial Library… Read more »

Apologies and Power Dynamics: What you need to know

I’m sorry. So sorry. My apologies. Mea culpa. Such short phrases that should just roll off of your tongue, right? But what if you are expected to apologize when you strongly believe you did nothing wrong? Expected to apologize when the person you are told to apologize to is at ‘fault,’ from your perspective? Last week, a colleague endured a tirade from an ‘internal customer.’ It lasted close to an hour. I kept my distance because 1) I didn’t want… Read more »

Ultimate Guide to Relaxing Music

This week has been particularly hectic–boy, am I frazzled and in dire need of relaxing music. So far this week, it’s been jury duty (and getting selected for a high profile case), field trips, candidate interviews (for my boss’s replacement), and flying to Mars (ok, just kidding on the last one). Need I say more? Oh, wait, being short-staffed at work the past two weeks! After a stressful day, no, make that week, I need to reclaim my zen with… Read more »

Warning: How PizzaBoxes Can Be a Fire Hazard

My family recently learned how pizza, more specifically, pizza boxes, can be a fire hazard. Two weeks ago, I headed off for several days without my family and almost without a care in the world to my first blogging conference. I attended Focused Blogging in Richmond, Virginia. In another life, this would have been a 90-minute drive (without traffic), but now Richmond is over 4 hours away from home. The first night, during dinner, I received a frantic phone call… Read more »

Mother's Day Meditations: Letter to My Mom

Dear Mom, This Mother’s Day, I wanted to tell you how much I love you and reflect on how much I have learned from you. First, let me tell you how much I envy your energy and grit. No matter what challenges life throws at you, you jump right back up on your feet like a cat! As a parent, when juggling work and family life overwhelms me, I stop to pause and wonder…”How did mom pick up the pieces… Read more »

Letters to Girls Who Dream of Flying

Inside the Creative Mind This post is the first in the series, “Inside the Creative Mind.” Let’s kick off this series by interviewing Ms. Shona Bramble, author of Letters to Girls Who Dream of Flying. Shona, thank you so for taking the time to answer a few questions for my blog readers over at www.allthingsrelax.com and congratulations on publishing such an inspiring book, Letters to Girls Who Dream of Flying. So, let’s dive (or should I say lift off) into… Read more »